Just Face It: Lesbians Are HAWT….
Why do some men think it’s hot when 2 ladies kiss/seem attracted to each other sexually?I don’ get it.
Let me first set the stage by admitting that I AM one of those men you are referring to. As is Howard Stern and seemingly 80-90% of other straight men apparently by the amount of commentary found on it on the Internet. Yet I’ve never found an answer why that is. The majority of these men would also apparently not be turned on by the sight of two men kissing and instead would be repulsed. While not turned on by men kissing, I’m not repulsed by it either. As seemingly always, I don’t quite fit ‘the norm.’
While I could end my answer here and have it be just as complete as all of the others answers I’ve come across, I’m going to attempt to try and explain it for myself. I just don’t promise that it will make any sense. So here goes….
It’s my theory that this has to do with straight men having an unconscious thought that women are more tender and pleasurable to kiss than men are, because that’s how men feel when women kiss them. They also have the unconscious belief that women want in turn to experience the same tenderness and pleasure but that men are ‘rougher’ and therefore don’t provide it. So when straight men watch two women kiss, they expect that the women are getting considerably more pleasure from it than if it was a man and a woman. Add in that men are inherently visual creatures and the added visual throws it past the edge. Extend those same thoughts to other sexual acts and that would explain the attraction of watching lesbian sex for the straight male.
It may also be that men enjoy it because it’s a ‘taboo’ of sorts but one in which they don’t have to participate in and that may also go to why men tend to get repulsed by seeing two men kiss: that a man would kiss them hits closer to home for the ‘taboo’ than for two women and sometimes, something ‘different’ can be a turn on. Frankly, as long as it’s consensual and no one is underage, I believe couples can do as they please. Also, physical attractiveness almost certainly plays a part and seeing two women that the particular man finds attractive kiss is more likely to be ‘hot’ for them than two women they find unattractive, and since most men generally don’t want to think of other men as ‘physically desirable’, the dislike of seeing two men kiss.
In any case, these are not theories I have any proof for. They are just my thoughts based upon what I see, read and my own thoughts and feelings when seeing two women kiss. Have your own theories? Post them here!
August 5th, 2008 at 12:38 pm
As a guy who sees nothing wrong with two women kissing, heres my thoughts on the topic.
Guys are very visually oriented. When we see two people enjoying each other, on TV, movies, whatever, we subconciously place ourselves in the situation. If its a man and woman kissing, you subconciously take the place of the guy. Great! Two women kissing, you can imagine yourself taking the place of either one. Also great! Two guys kissing….. um…. best not to think about that.
August 5th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
I have no answer for this question at this time. I guess you are looking for answers from guys. I dunno.
Anyway, what I want to know is if those same guys are turned on by 2 men kissing. They probably wouldn’t admit it.
Are women turned on my 2 women/2 men?
I love Heath & I love Jake, but I was not turned on by them kissing. I was not repulsed. But I did not get all hot and bothered.
What did get me all hot was watching Tony Soprano do it on “The Soprano’s.” mmmm!
I have no idea what I am blubbering about.
August 5th, 2008 at 2:06 pm
Bella, I didn’t see the famed Heath-and-Jake, but DID however see Tony Soprano (an unattractive man if I ever saw one) making out with a cute chickie in a wheelchair, to whom he compared Greta Garbo. Or however the grammar goes. And yeah that was when I changed the channel but still it wasn’t bad like I might have thought.
Urgh. Must turn off ‘rambling’ switch in head.
Women kissing, whatever. Not that I’ve seen much. Guys kissing can range from hi-larious (McKay and the doctor in Stargate Atlantis episode ‘Duet’, though the eligibility of that one is debatable as it wasn’t really McKay at all) to cute (Captain Jack smooching the Doctor at the end of season 1) to interesting (Captain Jack and the other Captain Jack making out in front of the Rift).
None of this however gets me involuntarily hot and bothered. Then again, pretty much nothing does. Not being in control of this stuff would freak me out too much.
August 5th, 2008 at 3:01 pm
HEYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!
I was just KIDDING about Tony Soprano.
I meant to type that on the next line but
I had to run out and take my son to dinner.
Tony Soprano—YUCK!
I hate how he breathes all hard no matter what he is doing.
I met him in person (Gandolfini) and he REALLY does breathe
like he as a mouth and nose full of cheese doodles all day long.
Whew~Just had to clear that up.
August 5th, 2008 at 6:26 pm
GOOD. Because if not I’d have to run away kinda scared.
August 5th, 2008 at 7:33 pm
heh heh heh!
December 8th, 2008 at 3:51 pm
*cough-cough* As a queer lady, I just want to say that whether the kissing occurs between two men, two ladies or a “mixed” couple, to me it’s all in the way the two people involved kiss :p