Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow?
I hate my hair. It’s very fine and very thin and when it’s long it’s just limp and gross. So I cut it very short. I like it short. It’s easy to care for. It’s comfortable. The only problem with having it short is that my mom is constantly on my case about my short hair. “You’re never going to meet a guy if you don’t let your hair grow out!”
My opinion is that if a guy takes a look at my hair and decides he doesn’t want to get to know me, I don’t need someone that shallow in my life.
My question is do guys really completely decide not to get to know a woman based on how long her hair is?
My guess is that some do. I know there are people who can’t see past a physical exception to their immediate idea of attractive. I’ve encountered them before. But for myself, I think that hair length isn’t a big deal. yes, my preference is for shoulder-length hair, but my ex-fiance and many girlfriends have had short hair. I didn’t avoid getting to know them because of it. Frankly, I don’t get the mentality of those who would.
BTW - tell your mom to bugger off. I have the advantage of knowing who sent this and I’d certainly date you if I wasn’t taken and you lived closer and wanted to go out. So I know there are other guys who would love to date you as well. Mom doesn’t know everything. 
And your opinion seems valid and healthy to me! I agree with it!
August 12th, 2008 at 9:06 am
i have this theory (and it’s totally crackpot and statistically unsound and pretty much based entirely on my own experience and observations, so it’s probably full of faulty availability heuristics and confirmation biases, but still) that on some level, a lot of guys see a short-haired girl as a free spirit good for some casual fun, whereas a long-haired girl appears better for settling down with. as if our hair says that much about us. nonetheless, none of the gentlemen i’ve dated in the last few years have been inclined toward a long-term commitment with me, and when they do actually settle down with somebody, their girlfriends all have long hair.
then on the other hand, this may also be due to the fact that all those men were douchebags, and what’s more, statistically more women have long hair anyways. i’m not that concerned, and your concerned letter-writer shouldn’t be either. feh.
August 12th, 2008 at 9:12 am
i can tell you as a married woman with VERY short hair, my husband claims not to like it. But he actions prove otherwise
as for out on the street- i get TONS of compliments. idont remember getting any with long hair down to my butt. i think guys are intrigued by a woman with the confidence to pull off short hair (and by short i mean shorter then shoulder legenth)
August 12th, 2008 at 10:00 am
Just like women, men have different preferences. Long hair, short hair, thin women, robust women, eye color, skin tone - you name it and there’s a fan base out there for it. Why, some men even prefer bitchy women over compliant women!
My hair has been long for the last 10 years or so. Right now it reaches my waist. I wear it long because I feel more sexy with it long. Also, I know my man really, really loves long hair.
I’ve had more than my fair share of compliments on my hair. I’ve also had lots of unasked for advice saying I should cut it to a much, much shorter style. The compliments come from all range of ages and both sexes. The unasked for advice that I should lop it off only comes from women in my age group (early 50s.)
August 12th, 2008 at 1:50 pm
I get the same looks I did when I had long hair… Its the confidence you exude that draws people, not the hair.
Oh and hubs always dated chicks with long hair but he married me… thats gotta mean something… =)
August 15th, 2008 at 6:04 pm
I’d rather talk about how much pressure guys are under to act and look a certain way in order to qualify as ‘manly’.