Honest Answers From A Guy…

My husband claims that he fantasizes about ME and only me whenever he masturbates, which he does on the rare occasion that I am out of town. That seems like a lie to me. Is it even possible that he’s thinking of me? I don’t even care if he is thinking of a movie star or whatever! I guess I’d rather he not think about our hot babysitter, but other than that it’s fine with me if he’s thinking about other women just for masturbation purposes. He’s lying, right?

Well, right off - I’d never call anyone a liar without proof, and what they are thinking while masturbating is definitely something I can’t prove. That said, it’s certainly possible that he does only think about you.  You may be exactly what he needs to turn him on every time. Either way, why question it? Why do you seem to WANT him to be lying?

When I first read your question, I had a gut-level reaction to the use of the word ‘lie’. ‘Lie’ and ‘lying’ seemed accusatory. In fact, my reaction was that you seem to be reacting as though he couldn’t possibly be thinking of you and I’m hoping you have better self-esteem than that. I hope I’m reading it wrong.

Getting back on point though… yes, it’s possible that he only thinks about you. I think about my girlfriend the large majority of the time but occasionally my mind switches to some celebrity. Does that make me a bad person? Maybe in some eyes. Not mine. To me, it’s the equivalent of some couple’s role-playing. I don’t think my partner only masturbates thinking of me either.

Frankly, I think you should try to believe him. There’s no reason to think otherwise, is there? As long as he isn’t choosing masturbation over being with you when you are around, I wouldn’t worry about it too much!

More information about the positive effects of masturbation, as this topic is certain to draw the condemning folk out:

Effects of Masturbation

Better Health Channel on masturbation (sponsored by the Vicrotian Gov’t in Australia)

The University of California at Santa Barbara

OK. So maybe my last post was premature, because I certainly never expected the outcry of support I’ve gotten since I wrote it! I’m very thankful to have such a kind and supportive base of readers, even if some of the folks who read this blog take issue. So starting this weekend, ‘Honest Answers From a Guy’ is back! Please submit your questions via the form and I’ll work on them in the order I feel is appropriate, and may combine some if necessary.

I will be posting 1-2 times per week at a minimum, and more as I feel like it. But to avoid the burnout I was hitting before, if I receive similar questions, I’m either going to answer only one of them, or combine them as appropriate. Feel free to send in what questions you want to - they don’t HAVE to be of the relationship/difference between man and woman kind. But they should be something you find interesting and want to hear an honest opinion on. I also refuse the right to reject any question I feel without notice.

Finally, to all of those that i indicated last time as those who made snarky remarks in other places, submitted fake questions to insult me and generally considered this site to be ‘Eeeeeeew’ - I still say FUCK YOU. No one asking you to read it now either. If you’re going to, obviously you have an interest so what does that say about YOU, fucking hypocrites that you are.

So yep. I’m back! Deal with it….

Yep. It was a short run, but recent events and circumstances are causing me to need to devote time and energy elsewhere and I don’t believe I can give ‘Honest Answers’ the attention it deserves nor the questions I receive the appropriate amount of thought and care they require. As such, I am shutting down this blog as of the end of the week, and will be removing the domain and site at that time.

To all of those who supported me, who wrote questions, who provided comments and who embraced the basic concept of what this site is about, I thank you from the deepest parts of my heart. It was my pleasure to try and share with you the perspective of soemone not afraid to speak what was on his mind.

For those who made snarky remarks in other places, submitted fake questions to insult me and generally considered this site to be ‘Eeeeeeew’ - FUCK YOU. No one asked you to read it.

And with that, I bid you adieu and hope you all have happy and fulfilled lives. I know I’m trying to!