Honest Answers From A Guy…

My husband claims that he fantasizes about ME and only me whenever he masturbates, which he does on the rare occasion that I am out of town. That seems like a lie to me. Is it even possible that he’s thinking of me? I don’t even care if he is thinking of a movie star or whatever! I guess I’d rather he not think about our hot babysitter, but other than that it’s fine with me if he’s thinking about other women just for masturbation purposes. He’s lying, right?

Well, right off - I’d never call anyone a liar without proof, and what they are thinking while masturbating is definitely something I can’t prove. That said, it’s certainly possible that he does only think about you.  You may be exactly what he needs to turn him on every time. Either way, why question it? Why do you seem to WANT him to be lying?

When I first read your question, I had a gut-level reaction to the use of the word ‘lie’. ‘Lie’ and ‘lying’ seemed accusatory. In fact, my reaction was that you seem to be reacting as though he couldn’t possibly be thinking of you and I’m hoping you have better self-esteem than that. I hope I’m reading it wrong.

Getting back on point though… yes, it’s possible that he only thinks about you. I think about my girlfriend the large majority of the time but occasionally my mind switches to some celebrity. Does that make me a bad person? Maybe in some eyes. Not mine. To me, it’s the equivalent of some couple’s role-playing. I don’t think my partner only masturbates thinking of me either.

Frankly, I think you should try to believe him. There’s no reason to think otherwise, is there? As long as he isn’t choosing masturbation over being with you when you are around, I wouldn’t worry about it too much!

More information about the positive effects of masturbation, as this topic is certain to draw the condemning folk out:

Effects of Masturbation

Better Health Channel on masturbation (sponsored by the Vicrotian Gov’t in Australia)

The University of California at Santa Barbara

OK. So maybe my last post was premature, because I certainly never expected the outcry of support I’ve gotten since I wrote it! I’m very thankful to have such a kind and supportive base of readers, even if some of the folks who read this blog take issue. So starting this weekend, ‘Honest Answers From a Guy’ is back! Please submit your questions via the form and I’ll work on them in the order I feel is appropriate, and may combine some if necessary.

I will be posting 1-2 times per week at a minimum, and more as I feel like it. But to avoid the burnout I was hitting before, if I receive similar questions, I’m either going to answer only one of them, or combine them as appropriate. Feel free to send in what questions you want to - they don’t HAVE to be of the relationship/difference between man and woman kind. But they should be something you find interesting and want to hear an honest opinion on. I also refuse the right to reject any question I feel without notice.

Finally, to all of those that i indicated last time as those who made snarky remarks in other places, submitted fake questions to insult me and generally considered this site to be ‘Eeeeeeew’ - I still say FUCK YOU. No one asking you to read it now either. If you’re going to, obviously you have an interest so what does that say about YOU, fucking hypocrites that you are.

So yep. I’m back! Deal with it….

Yep. It was a short run, but recent events and circumstances are causing me to need to devote time and energy elsewhere and I don’t believe I can give ‘Honest Answers’ the attention it deserves nor the questions I receive the appropriate amount of thought and care they require. As such, I am shutting down this blog as of the end of the week, and will be removing the domain and site at that time.

To all of those who supported me, who wrote questions, who provided comments and who embraced the basic concept of what this site is about, I thank you from the deepest parts of my heart. It was my pleasure to try and share with you the perspective of soemone not afraid to speak what was on his mind.

For those who made snarky remarks in other places, submitted fake questions to insult me and generally considered this site to be ‘Eeeeeeew’ - FUCK YOU. No one asked you to read it.

And with that, I bid you adieu and hope you all have happy and fulfilled lives. I know I’m trying to!

I still have a number of questions to address, but I due to an unexpected health crisis in my family, I haven’t been able to focus on blogging for the last couple of days and will be taking a break through the weekend. Answers will be back on Monday. I apologize for the interruption of ‘almost-daily’ posting.

Keith

Yes, this really came into my inbox, and since I’m not feeling up to a more serious and lengthy answer today, I’ll post the question:

Why are you so darn adorable?

This is one of those times, I wish I knew who was submitting a question!

I don’t know that I’m adorable. Just honest, and opinionated. So maybe for once, in a very self-effacing manner, I’ll just leave the answer at that, and see what happens. lol

It has become sadly apparent that I must write a quick note / disclaimer regarding this site versus posting a question and answer today. It appears that some folks don’t seem to quite understand that this blog and the answers given within it speak only to MY OWN opinions and thoughts based upon my life and experiences. I make it a point not to make generalizations though occasionally I may make guesses or theories and will note them as such because, frankly, I don’t like being generalized either.

It’s also important to note again, that I am not a licensed therapist, doctor, psychologist or any other medical or mental health professional. I am  just an average guy who’s had a fair amount of life experience providing my honest opinions on the questions people send me. You are free to post your own thoughts and opinions as comments on a post, but I ask that you do it without trashing others.

From now on, a disclaimer will be running on the right side of this site. I regret having to use screen space to do it, but I want to remind people of all of this. I apologize to all of those that feel that this post and that disclaimer are ‘talking down’ to them.

Thank you,

Keith

Important thing to remember, when stating that you will still be answering questions over the weekend: make certain you actually schedule the answers to post! Sorry, all… brain-fart here. Questions and answers will be back tomorrow!

All- I only have a few questions left that were sent to me on the first day and will be answering them over the weekend but then I’ll be out! So please do not hesitate to use the ‘Ask a ?’ link at the top to submit your questions!

Thanks!

Hello! My name is Keith, a.k.a. that Mindless Pursuits guy. If you’re at this blog, you’ve probably come because you know me from Etsy or from my other blog, Mindless Pursuits. If you’ve stumbled across this blog by accident, let me take a moment to bring you up to speed!

Offhand, you’re probably wondering what the heck this blog is that has the title ‘Honest Answers From A Guy.’ I mean, really? How novel is that? Aren’t guys generally honest? Well, I’d like to think so, but apparently, many women don’t feel that’s the case or else they are just afraid to ask them questions. Thus when I created a thread on the Etsy forums just to see if anyone would respond, I was flooded with questions, some joking but the large majority being sincere, honest questions. For my part, I am an honest man and so set forth to answer them honestly and with thoughtfulness based upon my own experience. As the thread grew, I began to receive feedback that I should expand the thread into an advice column. That led to the creation of this blog, where I will answer all sincere questions as time permits.

 The basic rules of this blog are very simple. If you send me a question, I will attempt to answer it if I can, ladies first. I will provide honest answers based upon my own insights, experience and beliefs. I will also attempt to answer as thoughtfully as I deem appropriate. That said, I am not a doctor, lawyer, therapist, mechanic or other specialist. My career is in information technology and my hobbies include most forms of crafting. As such, I am not to be considered an expert on anything except my own experiences, views and thought processes! Any questions that I think require broader knowledge I will attempt to provide some solid research on or more informative links, but I cannot be held responsible for anything other than providing my opinions and insights. OK?

So that is the purpose of this blog.Feel free to send a question at advice@mindlesspursuits.com! You can also register to add comments and discuss this in the Mindless Pursuits forums. Enjoy your visit!